Today's Mantra // how beautiful. A reminder to be gentle with yourself while also being gentle with others. A reminder of kindness and compassionate.
We can only be as kind or as compassionate with others as we are kind and compassionate with ourselves. -Sunny
A lot of you may not relate to this post but if you do, know you are not alone.
What people don’t always talk about during prep: Things are more than likely going to rise to the surface. And what I’m referring to is what we normally would suppress in our day to day life - either by smoking, drinking, or simply keeping busy.
We may look like we have it “all together” but that’s just far from the truth. This shit is not easy - for anyone. Idc who you are or how many times you’ve gone through it, if you say this is easy.. You’re lying to yourself and everyone else who potentially looks up to you.
I will admit that I have been distant but this is only to allow myself to sit in the dark of my own mind to overcome what’s been consuming me internally. And I am willing to admit to this because I am human and would hate for someone going through the same thing to feel like they’re just going crazy.
The truth of the matter is, even with a hard exterior: If you’re willing to put your heart and soul into something, that shit starts to break you down the more deep you go into it. We are humans and when pursing a goal on a deeper level it is normal for that goal to tap into your vulnerability.
I may seem very positive through my account on IG but the truth is, I’m fuckn not.
I constantly put myself down because I am sometimes unable to exceed by own personal expectations.
But I am also able to my appreciate my work and always acknowledge how far I have come.
Despite my dark side, I also have a good side, and so do you.
That good side is what You & I have to tap into every single day in order to persevere.
Don’t ever give up on anything you believe in.
& Don’t be afraid to tap into the dark.
Without the dark side, I wouldn’t be able to recognize the good.
"...for God to have scars means the world got close enough to leave its marks." What I loved about @aliajoy 's GLORIOUS WEAKNESS is that she strips back so many of the musts that cultural Christianity holds us as signs of God's blessing: a doubt-free faith. Stable finances. “Good” (white/thin) looks. Secure mental health. Shiny, easy-to-explain families. Happy church attendance. Healing secured with vigorous effort.
Alia isn't happy to often be a mess. She would rather have her shit together. But I am convicted by her words and life that having our shit together is not necessarily God's plan for us.
If they tell me anything, the beatitudes clue me into the blessedness of vulnerability. Rather than anxiously performing for Jesus and His Church, Christ instead calls me to be exactly where I am and find grace in barren AND fertile lands. #gloriousweaknessbook#gloriousweakness#beatitudes#beatitudefaith#suffering#scars#blessing#blessed#mentalhealth#finances#poverty#vulnerability#performance
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To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable. — C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves
The Power of Authenticity -> learn more www.marietaoslanec.co/case-study or click in bio. 🔥🔥🔥
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There are two kinds of men: those who are unsure of themselves & those who pretend they’re not unsure of themselves. The wise woman knows how to respond effectively to both. The Quick Start Guide to #UnderstandingMen#vulnerability#shame
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⬇️ 56lbs. *long post* It's on my heart to share a little of my testimony with y'all. If God is putting it on my heart I know one of you needs to hear it. That means vulnerability which I do NOT like but hey, I'm working on it. A word of caution- it could be triggering for some people. This photo isn't just about the weightloss, though that's all you can see. I struggle with the weight because of trauma. Sex trafficking at age 7ish, sexual abuse, and so many other things that I let shame and control me my whole life. I didn't understand that my weight was a direct reflection of how I was doing on the INSIDE at any point in time in my life. I yoyo-ed all my life. I've suffered through anxiety, depression, eating disorders, and so on. I didn't even go to therapy specifically for these things until my 30's and I'm a social worker- I knew better! It's important to recognize that you have to heal from the inside out. That might be therapy, exercise, art, music, crying, talking, etc. but you've got to find a way to feel the pain when it comes and then let it go, do not become it. I also learned I had to own my story. We're not the things that have happened to us. We're love. We're valuable. We're worthy. Every single one of us. Sometimes it feels silly to post these before and after pictures, even though I'm so freaking proud!, because there's so much more to both of the people you see in the photo then just a weight. The one on the left was still strong. Focused. Determined. Surviving the best she knew how. I don't want her to be judged, you know? But with that, the woman on the right grew. Worked. Challenged herself to be healthy in all ways. Healing is an everyday active choice. Just like this keto journey that you and I are on, we have to choose to make sure that at the end of the day, we're not just nourishing our bodies but our minds, our souls, too. I know there's a lot of stories like mine, and I hope that if yours is similar and you're still searching for healing, you find it and welcome it. For me, it'll be a lifelong healing journey, just like my physical health, but the reward is so so great. Never, never stop investing in yourself. You're worth it.
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for someone who’s afraid of vulnerability, i sure chose a great profession!! as an artist, i am constantly forced to face what’s up in my brain. you too? tell me about it pls!
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Brené Brown’s “Call to Courage” has inspired me so much and given me a fresh perspective on vulnerability. •
Check out how she describes vulnerability that is often mistakingly labeled as weakness. •
• “Vulnerability is not winning, it’s not about losing. It’s having the courage to show up when you can’t control the outcome.” -Brené Brown
Even though i was hurt several times I promised myself I won’t make you responsible for the experiences I have made in the past. We should give everyone the possibility to see the person who is behind this huge wall of bad, sad and hurting experiences from the past. If you miss or love someone - say it! Life is too short to play the cool person that never needs, misses or loves someone. Be honest to yourself and others. Vulnerability is not winning or losing. It‘s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome. Vulnerability is not a weakness. It‘s our greatest measure of courage. 📸 @r.nora #vulnerability#mystory#studentoflife#bereal#honesty#bemyself#love#life#growth#photo#photoshoot#redhairblueeyes#worth
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I wrote an open post to my biological mom over on 45Conversations.com — it was a pretty big move for me. It might seem strange to have done so on my business website — but the truth is that I’m an advocate for all kinds of families — no matter how they come to be. And I believe that the stories we tell ourselves and that others tell us about ourselves are really critical to the people that we become. I’m hopeful that in telling my story others will be inspired or will open their minds to the importance of speaking your truth - and to living it too. I have immense respect and appreciation for my biological mother and hope my post perhaps finds her — or — that she finds it. #adoption#ancestrydna#bc#dna#parenting#vulnerability#brenebrownquotes#speakyourtruth#geniusshared
For so long I was afraid to fall in love because I had this idea that falling in love would hold me back from pursuing my purpose. I remember once falling in love where I found myself giving so much to the point I forgot about myself and the world that was surroundings us. This is where one starts losing control. Where we give and give until there is nothing more to give. Where we forget our responsibility to ones’ self. And the next time we find ourselves falling in love we restrict ourselves because we never want to lose ourselves again. But the love you had for another was never the problem. The problem was how you LOVED YOURSELF.
Love is everlasting.
Love is abundant.
Love is the nature of our existence.
Our Ego makes us feel that we are losing control because it can’t logically understand love. It’s only understands our past, suffering, fears and logic. Love is not something we can control, it is something to be felt. Our sense of losing control comes from a deeper issue of SELF LOVE, not from feeling love towards another being. It’s stems from how you love and respect yourself. If you find yourself over giving and forgetting of one’s self , THAT IS ON YOU. We are responsible for how we treat and love ourselves and how we maintain our unconditional boundaries in every relationship.
The people we love are just a reflection of our own love.
#newepisode#linkinbio This episode was inspired by a friend from middle school. We had a conversation about podcasting and working alone. It can be scary. I talk about my fears, letting go of them and continuing the process. Also I try to simply the process of creating a podcast for the listeners that have asked how to start recording.
Mike Brown @justmikebrown primomiguel.com
This episode was inspired by a friend from middle school. We had a conversation about podcasting and working alone. It can be scary. I talk about my fears, letting go of them and continuing the process. Also I try to simply the process of creating a podcast for the listeners that have asked how to start recording.
Mike Brown @justmikebrown primomiguel.com
This week I took a small step in the right direction of forgiveness.
I took one person I knew I'd never receive a sincere apology from and forgave them, because forgiveness isn't for them. It's for me. I didn't say "what they did was okay" or "they have to be apart of my life now", instead I told myself I no longer wanted to be upset.
So I took responsibility for myself and gave permission to release all that came with my resentment I held for this person. Instead I stepped into love for myself, compassion for their humanity, and as a result I was able to accomplish something I'd been trying to do for months now.
That's a celebration right there! ✌🏻💕
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A favorite quote by @brenebrown we discussed at The Grand Session on Navigating Cross-Cultural Identity with @shrutis1188.
What does belonging mean to you?
This has been on my mind for awhile and as usual, it's just that much harder to talk about because I feel vulnerable and shame. But here's the reminder: if you won't think about this a year from now, don't spend more than 5 minutes on it. So. I need to get something off my chest. Lately I've been feeling very diminished. In one particular area of my life and it's one that I take a lot of pride in. The reason my feeling is triggered is because I feel like an expectation is being placed on me that blocks who I am and what I do. I understand that there's appearances that need to be kept up and no one really cares on more than a shallow end but I was hoping that wouldn't apply to me. I was hoping that I've proven myself to be more than their one expectation. Now, I know my ego might be getting in the way, it is a little bruised, but I also know who I am and I do my very best in this area of my life. If it's not a good fit or if it's something that I've realized is lacking, I know my efforts will dwindle until I decide to walk away. In this case, I have found the forever here and I would choose it every day. And here's the thought that I only have 5 minutes to think about until it's put away, "am I not good enough because they expect more and what I've given doesn't allow for room to go with the flow? Am I hindering myself despite the work that I do as part of the team?" I want to understand where I need to focus but also please those I think I need to please. And this is where I've landed; I will choose to look after my own health and wellness first. If that doesn't please everyone, I will not stress about it. I will continue the work that I do because it's constant and it's hard. Until I find that I am better for myself, I will not be made to feel bad about that. I know this is easier said than done but this is one step in the direction of my path. What's *actually* really easy is this focaccia 🍕 we made last night tho. What are ways you guys cope with daily stresses?
The past few months have been very challenging to say the least, I have had such great opportunities coming my way with being in a new place. For that, I’m so thankful and excited about. 🙏🏽
However, I’m human and It’s rough being in a new place with no support system. I moved across the country by myself and have minimal support here, it gets lonely and it’s hard trying to always put a brave face on everyday and even being the encourager of others that are facing their own challenges. All while I’m still trying to remain strong on my own. Today, I am feeling very homesick and reached out to one of my very best friends, he gave me the pep talk I needed. (I love you!) I just pray that everyone has best friends like mine, we all need solids in our world. I’m feeling thankful! 💕
Also, just want to just remind all of us that it’s ok not to be strong all the time, we are human and we just need to remain committed to being the best person we can each and every day. Sending love and good vibes to everyone. ☀️❤️
P.S. funny side note, we hated each other when we first met in high school!! 🤣🤣 😂 #growingpains #missingmycomfortzones#family#hometown#love#simpleembraceswithnoexpectations#vulnerability#friendship#oneofthosedays#itsok#strongertogether#pressurecreatesdiamonds#Godknowsbest#Godsplan#thankful#alwayssoigne
This is a real issue for many people.
I was recently with someone in a top plastic surgeon’s office & the surgeon said, “Listen, I can do the work and “fix” [this part of the body]. But if the underlying deeper wound isn’t resolved, you’ll always see that version of yourself no matter what we change on the outside. It’s really important to work through the mental piece as well.” 🤯
This man makes his money off of changing physical features..and even he knows that isn’t enough to change how we view ourselves! 🤯
It all starts from within!! Get that thing “fixed” if you want to, just know that isn’t the only piece of you that would need updating. 🙌🏼
The mind is POWERFUL! ✨
👉🏼 Are you someone who keeps skinny clothes aside in the closet, hoping if you’re “good enough” you can fit into them again?
👉🏼 Do you wear clothes that are too tight to remind yourself “you’re fat” so that you will be less likely to indulge?
👉🏼 Do you focus on the parts of yourself you don’t like, hoping it will bring more awareness, and therefore, action?
I [unsuccessfully] tried this for years! Turns out, we must work from the inside out, not the outside in.
👉🏼 If you want to feel thin, healthy, or whatever you’re going for.. wear things that make you feel *good*!!
🚨 When you feel good, you can make choices that align with that mentality! 🚨
👉🏼 If you want to feel good about your body, putting on clothes that don’t make you feel good isn’t in alignment with that!
👉🏼 How do you feel in jeans that are too small? Small because you are wearing the “right size”? Or huge because you’re bursting out of them? I’m going to assume you’re going to feel bigger than you actually are if you need a partner to help zip your “skinny” pants up. #justsaying 😜
👉🏼 It is much more important to feel good in what you’re wearing than to worry about a number inside of the pants. Last time I checked, we are looking at the outside of the clothes anyway 😜🙏🏼💗
Do you give yourself permission to love yourself as you are? Once we can get to that place, it only gets better. More self-love is the way. You can’t hate [or operate] yourself into a version of you that you love 💗
Shame has us believe that’s better to hide than to expose our vulnerabilities. It whispers in our ear that no one will understand and it’s voice is so believable at times. But that’s where shame grows its power, alone and hiding in the dark. It doesn’t want you to throw a spotlight on it or else it withers and loses power over you.
Name the feeling in your mind: this is shame. Describe how it feels in your body: hot flushing face, hollow stomach, a tickle at the back of the throat. And if you can, tell someone you love. Be vulnerable and shine your light in shame.
📸 : @somojohnw
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This image resonates with me very much right now🌊🌊🌊 It also reflects the stormy waters we're currently in astrologically speaking. Emotions are running very high for the last 2-3 weeks and things will be intensifying, coming the eclipse in Cancer in July. Mercury is not yet retrograde but soon will be and now we're already in his shadow phase. Tomorrow we have the summer solstice, another big yearly event. All this means we'll have an opportunity for massive epiphanies, wake-ups, realisations of all kinds. Old pains and wounds will be resurfacing but with the purpose to be finally worked through and cleared out of our system for good. Observe yourself - your reactions, behaviours, thoughts - very carefully, employ tons of self-compassion, care and patience with yourself and others. At the end of all this mid August we well feel renewed, reborn and cleansed. Happy summer folks, be easy on yourselves 🌞🌞🌞
Zoals een bloem de zon nodig heeft om bloem te worden, zo heeft een mens de liefde nodig om mens te worden.
~ Phil Bosmans
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I'm down on one knee, humbly asking for a but of assistance in manifesting my dreams.⠀
I've been taught by society and my upbringing to not ask for help, to "fake it til I make it" and to put on a mask of perfection.⠀
This kind of mentality has led to so many people struggling with mental health and even taking their own lives. Asking for help shouldn't be shameful. It should be a sign of strength through vulnerability.⠀
I could do with some help right now and I don't want it for free. There are plenty of rewards to choose from in my @gofundme page.⠀
Link in bio⠀
1. What one thing did you do better today?
You know how some therapists say “Lean into the discomfort of the work”? Oh my, this time it hit me. The discomfort, leaning in and a true test to what kind of person I want to be and further relating it to this #100DaysofBetterMe project - whether I am serious about being a better person when it comes to things that are really not comfortable. One word - vulnerability. I experienced the power of vulnerability. I felt extremely vulnerable and had an option to tell my story sincerely, open up on how I feel or shut down and prevent myself from being exposed, possibly hurt and in worse case rejected. Yes, it was hard and uncomfortable to feel vulnerable. To even admit I am at a point where I can be rejected. But I decided to opt for the better act and tell my story as being authentic and honest is worth the risk. And it sure was worth it. I ended up connecting to someone, more than I could ever imagine minutes before opening up. 🙏
2. Has doing so made you or someone else feel better?
3. Has it brought any new realisations?
The Power of Vulnerability by @brenebrown in one of my (if not THE one) favourite @ted talks and I have watched it countless times. Sometimes I even listen to it before sleep instead of sleep meditation. If you have not listened to it yet, I wholeheartedly recommend it. If you struggle with shame and vulnerability, even more so! Brené Brown in a way changed my life. She was the first to explain to me in a way I truly understood it, the difference between guilt and shame. And she is the one who often inspires me to realise the importance of being authentic, even when it comes with being vulnerable. She says: “Connection, the ability to feel connected is why we are here. In order for connection to really happen we have to allow ourselves to be seen, really seen.” And this time, I found courage to allow myself to be seen and yes, connection did happen and I am so grateful for this experience. 💗
Day 35 of #100DaysofBetterMe
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'Bare for all to witness'
Release and let go sometimes a good cry is needed, never be afraid to be vulnerable or intouch with your emotions. "Pure spirit pure soul naked and exposed and after all of that can you see my GLOW"
The truth is I always get nervous when I'm about to be in the teacher's seat. 😱 Even for public classes. And I'm okay with that. •
I understand that I am imperfect and as the face at the front of the crowd, also both courageous and vulnerable. 💪🏽 There is no such thing as a perfect teacher, nor a perfect person. What gives me the push to keep going is my passion 🔥for this practice and how much I truly believe that it changes lives through such subtle work. There is a miracle in starting a practice with the poses alone (ha ha how naïve we all have been!) and then one day you wake up and realize your path has changed, your belief system (maybe?), your levels of patience, ability for introspection, your conversations, your mind, your heart...your whole life...🦋
The opportunity to connect so deeply and authentically with so many humans that are elbows deep "in it" and...they keep going! Even when nervous or filled with doubt. That is why I keep going. Because they're doing the work and I get to witness it and it is beautiful. And so am I, and I get to witness it, and it is beautiful. And so are we all. And that's beautiful. Imperfect, sloppy and...beautiful. ✨🙏🏽
What makes you nervous and also inspires you to grow? What do feel feel proud of right now?
Yesterday I invited my kids to come to with me to a lunch meeting and they did AMAZING. On the way Moses (4) asked, “so mom, is this where you have all your meetings?” And I said “honey, I go wherever is best for the people I’m meeting”. He was obviously deep in thought about it so I explained that when he was really little I wanted to create a life for him that would be different. One where E and I could both be in his realm of influence all the time. One where he would be able to do fun things like a weekend at LEGO land or Disney. One where, when presented with once in a lifetime opportunities, we’d be able to say yes regardless of $$. For a young 21 year old mom with no college degree, there weren’t a lot of ways to make that happen that seemed realistic until I saw Network Marketing. This crazy opportunity where you get paid based upon “spreading the word” and I realized that my gifts including PEOPLE that never got to be tested on an ACT or SAT could actually create some value in the world. It lit me up. Like, in a way that I craved. A way where I could apply my creative genius to something during nap time, connect on a soul level with amazing humans, and still be there for the moments I didn’t want to miss.
I couldn’t be more grateful for the opportunity to wake up every single day and invest in something that spreads the messages of wellness, purpose, and abundance. And even more grateful to get to do it alongside my most valuable assets ages 8mo, 2, and 4.
The inner child is in each of us. If the inner child (parts of our energetic body from infancy to teenage years) experiences unhealed trauma, it may stifle our development in small ways and though we may look and function like adults come adult-hood, we may not feel quite capable. We may feel stunted within, or trapped in time at a certain “age”. We may develop unhealthy coping mechanisms or become depressed, or become triggered by certain situations and not know why. We might develop intimacy or commitment issues or become codependent and put others needs and worth before our own. We might replay unhealthy but familiar relationship patterns and pick wrong partners as adults. A bunch of things can happen that don’t add to the quality of our lives. .
When we have a wounded inner child that we don’t go within and save, a disconnection to part of ourselves happens as adults. The paradox of healing the inner child as an adult is that we feel more connected to ourselves and adult-like. We can show our child selves the validation, protection, forgiveness, acceptance and unconditional love that we didn’t receive when we needed it as children. We can look back on painful experiences but as adults and be the loving parental figure to mend the unhealed pain, and release it so that love can grow in its place. .
We will begin to flourish after the healing takes place. We will be able to be vulnerable, to set boundaries, to be happy without feeling guilty, to attract healthier relationship patterns, to live in the present rather than the past, to believe in ourselves, to let go of unhealthy addictions, to accept ourselves fully, to be victors rather than victims, to feel happier and more. It will take work and many times the pain is so deep and rough to work with that an experienced counselor or psychologist can help sort through it. If you’re more into spirituality , than a trusted quantum healer or spiritual adviser can help. If you’re more of a “do it yourself” person there’s plenty of self help books to get started on your healing journey. Here are some good recommendations that can be bought on Amazon: (Continued in comments)
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Re-sharing an older post: When we hear “self-love”, we often think of a state of being or a place to get to. Self-love is frequently talked about in a way that relieves us of feeling bad, negative, or hard on ourselves. It’s such an important practice. And I really mean PRACTICE.
And... a piece that is often missing from the conversation is this: a big part of self-love is taking personal responsibility: for our feelings and responses, for the way we show up in the world, for how we care for and treat ourselves, for how we work through the messiness, for the boundaries we set and the things/people/feelings we let go of, for putting our own well-being first, even if it means disappointing someone else… for all of it. This is the part we often don't want to talk about or acknowledge, because it's HARD!
Self-love and self-acceptance isn’t about blindly loving everything about ourselves and avoiding confronting the hard stuff. It’s about deeply knowing that we are inherently worthy no matter what, *and* that it takes our own effort, awareness, and understanding to align our lives in such a way that extending love and compassion to ourselves becomes possible.
Choosing to recognize the responsibility we have over how we respond to our lives is challenging, because it means we can no longer put the blame elsewhere (which doesn’t really get us anywhere in terms of growth, movement, or shifting). It means we can no longer use anything outside of ourselves as an excuse as to why we treat ourselves like dirt or talk to ourselves so harshly. It means taking a deeper look and acknowledging the blocks and barriers, saying "it's okay that I'm here *and* here is where my work is", and doing something about them in order to make room for our own well-being. And, it means practicing compassion, forgiveness, and accountability, all of which support us in becoming who we want to become.
Self-love requires self-responsibility. This isn't easy; it's learned, and takes daily practice. But when the responsibility in our own hands, nothing else can take it away, and we have more say in our own lives – there isn’t much more powerful than that. Happy Thursday, my friends. ✌🏻
I keep re-reading this because it is so so true and it’s the reminder we need from time to time to live wholeheartedly.
It’s okay to feel scared before stepping out of our comfort zone, before saying “I love you” first, before taking a leap of faith, before taking a risk, before leaving something familiar to go after our dreams. It’s uncomfortable and scary. But sometimes it is that discomfort that can be our compass toward growth, and even though it’s okay to feel scared we shouldn’t let fear paralyze us and make us stay where we are out of fear that we’ll get hurt or that things won’t go the way we expect. The daring way is the way through if we don’t want to sit in our comfort zone wondering what if. What would you do if you weren’t scared? Where would you go?
The pain you know and the scars you have may be all too familiar, but they can’t be applied to the future when every moment is unknown. We just don’t know what’s going to happen.
And as terrifying as that may sound, I think it’s exactly the reason why we should keep stepping forward and showing up.
Drop ❤️ if you are going through the process of healing! Just had conversation with my brother @shawn_vybes about this very topic, just on a very personal level, where we shared our insecurities, traumas and things we went and go through in life, and conversation inspired me to write this post of encouragement for you guys, so you can stay brave and vulnerable, and look for ways how you can heal and overcome your deep traumas and eventually turn them into your strengths. Sometimes it gets so hard to be vulnerable and open up even to the ones we love the most, because we don’t want to share the pain we carry because we think it will affect them negatively, but it is a good thing to do, because it helps to stay on track and go through the process of healing, we get support, love and encouragement we need, because let’s face it, we are human beings not fictional characters from marvel comics, and it builds bond, strengthens relationship and deepens trust with the people we share with. We are all in this together, you are not alone. We are one. Stay blessed and I hope this little message gives the courage you need. Love, yours @lukasnotes #mindsetofgreatness