A parent recently asked me how she could respond to her teenager son who complained every day on the way to school. She was delighted when she realised that SHE had the choice to set a standard in her life that meant she wouldn’t be listening to the complaining anymore. She clearly communicated that to him and guess what happened? He stopped 😉⠀
Do you need some advise and some help to see things clearer? This is why I’m running my exclusive 8 week course. We often don’t have the answers ourselves when we are starting out to make change and often we need someone to motivate and encourage us to make THAT change. 😃⠀
Contact me today to book onto our 8 week program. I have no plans to run this again at this moment in time. Just information for YOU 💜⠀
In what ways do you connect with your child? I’d love to hear from you below 👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼⠀
Here’s a couple of ideas:⠀
💜 Hand holding⠀
❤️ Eye contact ⠀
💛 Arm around their shoulder⠀
How do you connect with your child?
4 3212 hours ago
On the last day of our #istanbul#trip we had an absolutely #traumatic experience. Our cabbie demanded €44 from us by rigging the fare meter for a short ride. We told him its an unfair demand.
While the cab was on a slope and I was standing right behind it, the cabbie got out, risking my life. He quickly ran to pull the handbrake, while I moved aside to avoid being crushed. He then came to the other side, spat on my friend's face and sped away with the money that she had kept on the front seat, while she opens the front door of his cab and warns him that she will take it up with the police.
The passerbys quickly came to help us out and comfort us but our trip was ruined. This was possibly going to be our last #memory of Istanbul. While everyone agreed we should take it up with the local police, we had to catch our flight in 4 hours.
And then Yeşer Sarıyıldız (one of the passerbys) spoke to us for a while, told us how sorry she felt that we experienced this and promised us that she won't let this go. She spoke to some officials infront of us too but they told her that she will have to approach the police.
Yeşer informed us that she had kept her promise to these 3 #strangers she met on the #streets of Istanbul. This brave woman managed to get the CCTV footage of the entire incident, tweeted it and filed an official complaint too. The cabbie was not only fined for fleecing us and his inappropriate behaviour, but his licence was also suspended for 2 years. Yeşer's #tweet went viral and it was covered by the #Turkish#media as well. I genuinely hope that such a coverage will ensure that the many more cabbies in #turkey watch their behaviour from now on and don't try to #fleece the #tourists
And about Yeşer, she's one #compassionate , #brave and an #amazing woman. I am so so glad that there are #kind people like her who go out of their way to #help others! I learnt from you, how to keep a promise selflessly. Can't thank the Turkish police and Yeşer enough!
How many of us have experienced disassociation? ✋🏽
Often times this happens in result of trauma. Trauma can damage the way a person relates to themselves for a long time, and sometimes it isn't apparant until adulthood.
While in a traumatic state as a child, the consciousness is able to "break away" and "go somewhere else" while the body endures what a young person can't comprehend. This is a coping mechanism to protect the person from their reality, also known as Shock.
When in this state, it is common to feel a sort of separateness from the body and consciousness. When the body and mind are disconnected in this way, it's possible to be feeling both a lot and nothing at all. It can be helpful, but also very, very disturbing. 😶
We cannot always understand mental illness or why we react to trauma in the way that we do -- Sometimes very emotional, and other times shutting down completely... What is important is that we allow ourselves to heal these past wounds by seeing them and loving them.
With self love, dedication, openness (and a sense of humor, if you can), this disconnected path become a little more aligned.
In times such as this, it is necessary that we take significant steps and care of ourselves ans acknowledge this dissociated state.
Know that you are loved and worthy in this moment. 💕✨🌱
(and this moment too!)
What healing practices do you use to emerge from a dissociated state? Did you know that there are therapists and doctors who can help with dissociation?
Art by @superspiritual✨
Caption contribution by our friend @rumicaper🌟
#gofundme#gofundmedonations#gofundmeplease#gofund My link to having my #coccyx removed at #Spire in #Bristol is in my about me section. I have #chronic#osteomyelitis in the #spine after a #traumatic#tooth removal went wrong last year. The #infection spread to my spine after a v3 #nerve#injury went undiagnosed for 10 months by #Maxillofacial. Then In March this year this cyst in my spine finally burst and so they agreed to do an MRI scan of my face to see what was going on. However we had to #fundraise to do the scans of my back as they refused to believe the two infections and the limit to my walking could be connected. However, it has now been confirmed I have the same infection in the top as I have in the bottom. And after 18 months of banging my head against a brick wall, they are finally removing the cyst sac in my spine and any others around it. Once removed the nhs will then add me to the waiting list for a full #coccyx removal because all the bone marrow has been eaten away in my #tailbone. However Bristol Spire, are #lifesavers and said they will remove it as a #private patient as soon as we have raised the #money. No waiting for it to spread to other parts of my body. Which is obviously the risk in the 3 year wait on the nhs. So please, if your able. Dig deep so I can have this done now as I just want my #normal life back. I’m not a benifit scrounger like people I know try to make out. I just want my life back. I’ve already lost all the #bonemarrow in the left side of my #face from the original extraction that went wrong right upto the left jaw joint. #facialparalysis I don’t want to loose anymore. xx #chronicillness#jasonmansford#canyouhelp xx
It’s been 6 years since my #fathers#passing into #heaven When you lose a parent a piece of you fades. It’s up to you to believe in yourself to rise above the setbacks. When facing a #traumatic event in your life, you have to find your “why” you have to. Your #spirit is here on this #blessed earth for a short period of time. My #why is my #family and #bodybuilding Hey I could be out drinking and partying but I would rather look like a #savage#happy#Friday momma always said my #wheels could take me any where. I miss you dad! This set is for you! #love you forever and always your “little homie”
So we didn't get to tell you about Kaedin's #EpicSaga where he got stuck in the elevator yesterday. It was pretty #traumatic- he went to run back up to our hotel room to get our sigfigs, and when he pushed the button for the 7th floor, the elevator dropped... Into the basement, where it then got stuck between the first floor and the basement. He was alone and VERY #VERYupset...but he had the forethought to call using the "call for help button". He was really upset because he already hates elevators... So he was stuck for almost thirty minutes. They pried the doors open and I was able to talk to him from the first floor (I could see down into the car to see him)- but he was very very scared. It was pretty crazy and he was a very very #BraveKid. #StuckinTheElevator#StuckInAnElevator#ElevatorAdventure#Claustrophobic#PoorKid#SoBrave#MyKidIsAwesome
11 months ago my life got turned upside down.
Yesterday I went live on FB to talk about what’s been going on in my personal life this last year – and for those who haven’t watched the video, this is the Cliff’s Notes version.
**Trigger warning: topic of sexual assault.**
(As always, I invite you to tune into your heart and evaluate your capacity or desire to bear witness to the story I am about to share. Please don’t feel obligated to read, and please only read if you have the capacity to hold space for this share, and/or if you have your own community/support to help you through any of your own pain that may arise from reading. And if you do not have a community or support to help you through your own stuff, please know that you can reach out to me. XO)
11 months ago I found myself in a situation that felt like a bad dream; the repeat of a traumatic night from almost a decade ago.
An eerie replication of a night in 2009.
The night I was raped. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Except this was January 2018, and something frighteningly familiar was happening to me again.
I’ll be honest – for months now, I have struggled with sharing this. Gone back and forth, trying to decide if this chapter of my story is pertinent; and if so, how to share it without taking on a victim role and with how to share in such a way that would serve myself and others.
This past year I struggled with being a leader in my field, with showing myself as a strong, empowered, heart-centered coach and healer – when I was actually feeling so broken, lost, and confused inside a lot of the time.
Which is why it’s taken me almost a year to be able to share. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
The last year of my life has led me through a deeper healing journey than I ever thought was possible – and this is saying something after all the healing I have done in the last few years. And yet – as I look back, I see how this experience and the path it led me down is exactly what I prayed for. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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This is vital! Boundaries are crucial to your mental, emotional and physical wellbeing - otherwise you become a shell of a person who is constantly drained by energy vampires. It’s been a crucial part of my recovery and I still vacillate between the old and the new! Just keep persisting. Learn the word “NO”. I found/find it starts with saying “NO” to the inner critic, then to the people in your immediate environment (perhaps you start with the abusers in your life or just mere acquaintances or the girl at the coffee shop who is pushy). You’ll find a way that naturally works FOR YOU! Just keep persisting! And know it’s ok to trip up and fall backwards, especially when guilt, fear and shame throttle you saying you have to “please others” and “you’re bad for having needs” - tell it to “fuck off”; tell those introjects that you DO deserve respect, love and care. Tell it and yourself you DO have needs, wants, dreams and you’re going to meet them. You’ll feel the internal battle; but KEEP GOING!! Don’t give up on yourself, that’s why I’m here now and why I’ll keep going. Even writing this reminds me how far I’ve come and I’m proud of myself! #mentalhealthawareness#complexptsd#mentalhealth#ptsd#cptsd#grief#grieve#grieving#sad#anxiety#depression#trauma#traumatic#childhood#narcissist#narcissisticabuse#family#personalgrowthjourney#growth#selflove#selfcare#keepgoing#dontgiveup#dontsufferinsilence#yougotthis
This is oddly satisfying!
A network of spider veins (telangiectasias) being completely faded!
Sclerotherapy effectively treats varicose and spider veins and is considered the treatment of choice for small varicose veins
It involves injecting a chemical solution, the sclerosant, directly into the vein to entirely collapse, scar, and obliterate it, forcing blood to reroute through healthier veins. The collapsed vein is reabsorbed into local tissue and eventually fades.
It is commonly mixed with air to make a foam like substance that tend to stay in the vessel more firmly. The sclerosant damages the innermost lining of the vessel, resulting in a clot that blocks the blood circulation in the vein.
To prevent back-flow, most veins have valves that only allow blood only to flow in the direction of the heart. When these valves become incompetent, veins become enlarged and bulging (varicose). Smaller veins that feed these varicose veins can also become enlarged and appear as red or blue spider veins in the skin.
Spider veins (or telangiectasias) are clusters of tiny blood vessels that develop close to the surface of the skin and can twist and turn. They can be red, blue, or purple, and have the appearance of a spiderweb.
Varicose veins are bigger and found deeper. They can lead to a chronic swelling condition of the leg called venous insufficiency, which predisposes a person to blood clots (thrombosis) and skin ulceration. The destruction of these types of veins can be desirable both medically and cosmetically, but also used to improve symptoms such as aching, swelling, burning, and night cramps.
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