you never know when someone is going to become a memory. i wish i had taken more photos of us when i had the chance. wish i had taken more photos of the good times i had with friends. sometimes you just get so caught up in the moment you don’t bother to take a picture to cherish it for later. but i’m trying. 🤷🏼♀️ shedding your skin to become who you’re supposed to be can be painful, especially when you have to pull some of the skin off yourself. ...
In my all-time favorite show FRIENDS, Monica is dating Pete Becker. He calls her from out of town and says, "We need to talk." Monica wonders if it is a good talk or a bad talk? She is in intense psychological distress waiting for his return.
The skill set she would use while waiting for Pete to come home is ACCEPTS. These techniques are designed to keep your emotions manageable until you can resolve the problem.
Engage in a healthy activity. Read a book, go for a walk, call a friend, wash the dishes.
Do something kind for another person. Giving service can help you relieve emotional distress and feel good about yourself (that in itself can help you deal with stress.)
Is there a time when you've faced more difficult challenges than you're facing today? Maybe not—maybe this is the most intense situation and most intense emotion you've ever experienced. (If so, you may need to jump back up to the TIPP skill in previous posts.) If that's the case, is there another person who has suffered more than you? Use this skill to add a different perspective.
You have the power to invoke the opposite emotion of your current distressed feeling and reduce the intensity of the negative emotion. If you are feeling anxious, practice meditation. If you're feeling depressed, Google Image search "adorable puppies".
When you can’t deal with something just yet, it’s okay to push the problem out of your mind TEMPORARILY. Set a time to come back to the issue. You know that it will be addressed, and you can relax in the interim.
Replace negative, anxious thoughts with activities that busy your mind, such as saying the alphabet backward or doing a Sudoku puzzle.
Use your five senses to self-soothe. Take a warm bath with relaxing music, eat a snack, watch your favorite show... Anything that appeals to your senses.
Now, tell me, which one of all of these mentiones above have you used in the past? Has it worked?
I found you when I was looking for someone. As obvious as it sounds, it is not so simple. Look at it this way, I was a girl looking for love, but more than that I was a girl who believed that it only happens once. And then I found you, with a sly smile and eyes that could make my knees tremble, I thought 'this is it'. You were my first everything, and I had hoped that you will be the last. Have I told you before how bad I am at letting go?
So, when the first time you let me sleep sad after a fight, I didn't let it bother me. The first time you made me cry and your arms didn't pull me in, I pretended it didn't matter. The first time you shouted at me, I closed my eyes so tight pretending that it could block out the noise, too. The first time you casually flirted with that girl at the bar, I drank myself unconscious that night. The first time you let me cry myself to sleep, I didn't wake up till late in the noon. I often wonder why'd I still hold on to you? Maybe because there were a lot of other firsts too. The first time you said 'I love you' and I cried, because no one had said that to me before. The first time you held my hand and I felt your warmth long after you had let go. The first time we hugged and I could feel your heartbeat against mine. The first time we kissed and the first time you said "you couldn't live without me"
Maybe, we all have good 'firsts' and bad 'firsts'. And maybe letting go is about the bad ones and holding on is about the good ones. You were my both, you were, I thought, the love they say you only find once. I gave away all the chances, and some more to keep you for the good memories, because losing you would mean losing my only chance at love. I held on to you so tight, so long that when I let go, I was left with only the bad ones; the breaking, the crying, the never trusting again.
I gave you so many chances because I thought you were my only chance at love. Turns out I was wrong, turns out the firsts don't mean the last for everyone. You will know too, when you meet someone who makes another chance at love even better than the first. — firsts // disha
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