Meet Claudia as she talks to her Mom about cutting. Listen to what the therapist whispers in the background in support of both Mom and Claudia, regarding coping skills... starting with self- compassion!
Do yourself a favor. Take a break from whatever you're doing right now, close your eyes and take a deep, deep breath. Feel the air you take in cleanse you from all the negativity. Take another deep breath and make a promise to treat yourself better. Be kind to yourself.
We started a 30 day trial with @bemightier a couple weeks back. Liam has needed some support and feedback related to self-regulation. Essentially he plays games while connected to a heart rate monitor. The game gives him prompts and helps him recognize stress clues (faster heart rate) and guides him through breathing to return the heart rate to normal. Pretty neat! #stress#lifewithkids#mighty#bemightier#selfregulation
1 194 hours ago
His death set me free, brought me salvation and saved me forever. I thank you Lord for this great love.
People assume that in order to heal from trauma they have to resurface and dive headfirst into their trauma. This often leads to dissociation and the creation of rigid walls/beliefs that will often look like “I’m fine...what I went through didn’t affect me...I am who I am because of my trauma...I’m got eeerrrrthang under control...don’t you see how well I’m doing...I’m fine...Helloooo” - I see it but more importantly I know it firsthand because that was me before therapy.
This assumption couldn’t be further from the truth. Because trauma is an embodied experience that wreaked havoc on your nervous system, a big part of healing from trauma is learning how to regulate your nervous system. You don’t have to relive the trauma. Present day experiences that often trigger us and leave us feeling out of control, chaotic, unmotivated, fearful, numb, dissociated etc. is what is used in our healing.
When we learn how to regulate and stabilize and come back in to our window of tolerance, we heal trauma. I will be posting more about the window of tolerance. So important...learning this was essential in my healing. My therapist pulled out that sketch in almost every session. Stay tuned.
In this episode I bring a mindfulness activity I did with the kids to the internet. I think being mindful and grateful is good for children and adults alike, so I wanted to share this little activity with you guys. I basically use a rock to teach the kids to incorporate gratitude and mindfulness into their daily busy routines. I actually always have a rock in my pocket (weird? That's me...), because I like to be mindful and grateful as much as I can. I'm also a giant kid, so I usually also have playing cards (an Ace of hearts to be exact), hackee sacs, or kinder egg toys on me as well. All of which you could potentially use as tools to keep you mindful and grateful during your human journey on the blue planet, if you wanted to.
So, if you want to know how to use objects like rocks to be more mindful... all you have to do is go watch my YouTube video.
Happy Easter! 🐰🐣 .
How did you all go at letting the kids self-regulate with the choc intake? 🤔 Following on @sarahmoorewellness post yesterday. .
The only one failed was probably ME! 😶🙄
34 years of practice and i STILL dont know when to stop 🤢😬😂 (@_laurabentley_ im looking at YOU 🤪). . .
The Baby just opened all of her chocolates to then squash them in her hands (see picture) and put choc crumbs all over the floor. She actually didnt eat one piece......! Go figure! 🤷♀️
Miss almost 5 did okay. She did have her first choc at about 06am and she kept a steady state of grazing for a good hour. .
She did however also re enact the whole hunt about 6 times whereas she would hide all her chocolates all around the house again and then walk around with her easter basket collecting them again - by herself 😂😂😂 talking to herself.
I told her she could eat as many as she wanted but listen to her tummy when to stop....
OH BEHOLD...... she did stop and said she would save them for next weekend 👏👏👏 BUT after an hour she did come back and asked for more 🙄😶😑 .... we sat down for breakfast but she didnt eat anything as she was full. No big deal.
At 1pm she still said she was full but I made her lunch anyway and sat down with her and .... she ate! .... Then she had another 2 small choc bites ... and that was it! 😃
Dinner - play - bath - bed. No more choc talk.
Now kids are FINALLY asleep and I CANNOT WAIT TO GO EAT THEIR LEFTOVERS 😒🤭🤪
(No i wont - i have my own stash 🐰🐰🐰 Gotta practice that self regulation again 🙄😬😂). .
How did your kids go?
All out and tummy ache or only rations? 🤔🤔🤔
Kuvahaaste pv 21: itsesäätely. Itsesäätely on mm. omien tunteiden säätelyä ja kykyä ottaa vastuuta omasta toiminnasta ja ohjata itseään kohti tavoitteita.
Itsesäätelyn tuloksena voi mm.
onnistua olemaan hermostumatta pienistä,
selviytyä myös vaikeista tunteista,
pysyä suunnitelmissaan ja pitää kiinni sopimuksista,
pystyä vastustamaan mielitekoja. (Lähde: Erityisvoimia.fi) #TOImintaterapia#lastentoimintaterapia#otmonth2019#30dayotchallenge#selfregulation#calmdownbottle
0 99 hours ago
Rope swings in the park are the best, aren’t they?
Some dreams and nightmares feel so real that your body acts as if the dream actually happened. After you wake up - you may find your heart pounding and/or have shortness of breath.
The first thing to do is shake it out of your body. Literally “shake it off” - shake your limbs out and let the sensation of the nightmare release its grip on you.
Next - write it down. If the dream or nightmare is specially vivid it wants your attention.
Then - share it with a friend. Bringing it into the light of day often eases any frightening sensations associated with it.
Lastly - if your dream or nightmare still haunts you - seek out a dream specialist to help you process it and reframe it.
I’ve worked with clients whose recurring nightmares disappeared once we processed their dream.
I love working with dreams and am always amazed at the profound discoveries and healings that the dreamer uncovers.
I’m available for Skype/FaceTime sessions or in person sessions.
2 1915 hours ago
OT Month, Day 20 and 21:
Emotional Regulation and Self Regulation 🖐🏽Occupational therapists and occupational therapy assistants are trained in skilled interventions to assist children in learning and applying positive coping mechanisms to improve the way they perceive the people and environment around them, and how they respond. 🌈Interventions may include heavy work, animal crawl exercises, adapted clothing or weighted vests/blankets, visual schedules, social stories, breathing exercises, sensory play, or programs such as the “Zones of Regulation.” 🌟OTs will provide self calming strategies, sensory diets, and interventions that can be carried over to use at home, school, or the community in order for children to engage in healthy, meaningful social interactions with peers and adults. 👀Check out this great website by two OTs that sell weighted vests and blankets for positive self regulation for children in some modern, discreet styles: https://thesensoryproject.com/collections/all #emotionalregulation#selfregulation#otmonth2019#sensorydiet#otintervention#buildingbridges#thesensoryproject
Yes this boy is a ray of sunshine for me.
He is a whole half of my world and my heart.
I’m sure you hear it all the time; my children are my biggest teacher.
Let me lay it out for you from my shoes:
My children can trigger my deepest traumas, wounds + insecurities because there is no one else in the world that I love and care about their connection to me as my babies.
I want to be perfect for them and I want to see them always thriving with me. As they grow and go through their own experiences and learning more about themselves and the world around them- the more independent, defiant and sassy they get.
Don’t want to eat the amazing + nourishing food I made you? Triggered. Because I want nothing more than my babies to never be sick or lacking nutrition that could affect them in the future.
Don’t want to be kind and compassionate to your brother? Triggered. I want nothing more than my children to be and know empathy, compassion and kindness. I want them to be loved deeply and love in a healthy way.
So as they grow up and try to figure these things out on their own- throwing food at the wall and toys at eachother- I am the one who has to step back when I feel triggered and sit with myself. Not my children who have never navigated these aspects of life before. Not my children who are still learning. Not my children who are just doing what they think is their best option.
It’s on me. Me to show them how to not react, how to lean back into my space, let my entire brain process the situation and give me the most beneficial response to helping my boys. As I do this and I rewire my brain to function fully, I’m showing my boys how to do the same. How to use their entire brain, give time to their nervous system, their bodies, to properly process situations and help their beautiful brains and all of their healthy and normal emotions (because ALL emotions are!) grow strong and confident.
So yes, my children are my ultimate teachers on so many levels. .
But especially L O V E #lovealwayswins#sweetestthings#myboys#myheart#mindfulness#selfregulation#yogaoflife#pranayama#meditation#istillhavemymomentstoo
1 2122 hours ago
#Repost • @healingfacts
These forests are springing up around the world, from the United States to England to Japan to New Zealand. They can provide healthy, fresh food for the community, as well as diminish the many problems that come with industrial agriculture.
Today, almost half of the land on the planet is devoted to agriculture. “We are demolishing ecological systems around the world mainly to create food,” Hochberg told me. “We’re replacing them with systems that only support humans beings, and only for one purpose: food.”
In addition to annihilating plant and animal communities, turning natural areas into farmland takes its toll on humans, who depend on nature. “We need natural systems to support life on Earth,” Hochberg said as we sat under a tent, finishing up a children’s birthday party potluck in the forest. Hochberg wanted to show “how it's possible to create food and be ecological.”
Food forests might be new to the West, but they’re an ancient idea. Hochberg says that there have been food forests in Asia for millennia. There’s even a 2,000-year-old food forest in Morocco.
Adults must begin to understand that behind every behavior is a story/reason for that behavior. It is why I cannot stop talking about how important it is for every student to feel safe and connected to someone in a school. They need us to understand and help them manage their emotions and behavior. #adventuresinschoolsocialwork
Sensory board complete! Super excited about this fun board for my students to touch and feel to give them tactile input, as well as working on finger manipulation and fine motor skills! It can even be used for self-regulation to help an escalated kiddo calm down. 🤩
30 33924 October, 2018
Many of you already know how much I love this book of @annallenas ❤️ It’s perfect for talking about our emotions and how important learning to recognising them is to beginning to self-regulate those BIG emotions in early childhood 👦🏼🧒🏽👦🏾🧒🏻👧🏾 So imagine my joy at spotting this lovely invitation from @teacherheidi 🙌🏼 I imagine this would be a perfect morning check-in for class 👍🏼 #earlyyears#wellbeing#iteachtoo#aussieteachers#invitationtoplay
100 2,46722 September, 2018
It may be ideal to always “be positive” or “enjoy every moment” yet the reality is expecting this of ourselves and others disregards emotional acceptance, a first step of learning to honor and regulate the emotional experience that exactly makes us human.
When we share these phrases from a position of power, it drives disconnection, invalidates the emotional experience of the other, and instills a sense of separation in both the person vulnerably attempting to connect through deeply connecting emotions and the advice-giving other avoiding going there.
Empathy enables us to reach within and connect to root emotions shared by all of us. Yet even when we live a similar experience to another person, root emotions can be vastly different. Advice giving, assuming, or shutting down emotion is isolating - instead, question what you are sensing in them. Practice holding the space.
Empathy is vulnerable - it requires us to recognize the humanness in ourselves that we do often attempt to avoid, and opens doors to being deeply seen and felt.
We feel to connect. To heal. To learn.✨
*More similar images in stories and “ToxicPositivity” highlight
. #toxicpositivity image by @sitwithwhit 👏
39 46325 February, 2019
Do you move through the world tense and tight? Through chronic stress and unresolved or ongoing trauma, some of us have become so accustomed to this way of being in the world that we have unconsciously created an armour within our own bodies. As you move into today, notice where you feel tension in your body, and if it feels safe enough, gently remind yourself to relax and soften where you notice active gripping. You might reflect: What makes this easy or hard? How does this change my experience in my body? What thoughts, feelings, or images come up as I soften? How does/might this feel to be less guarded in my body in relationship with other people?