Each of us responds differently to conflict, and different types of conflict will bring out different reactions. 🔥
And we’re all about solutions… So here’s the thing: 👇
Once we realize that we, as humans, are programmed to lie. In other words, we’re all programmed with a biological response of shut it down, shut it out, or shut it off as our first reaction. We can learn to take ownership of our second response. In fact, our second response is the only one that we have control over.
And, if we want to create space for deep intimacy, the optimal "second response" is to choose honesty. This is what we call “opening the vault.” ✨
Case in point - My business and love partner, Julian Colker, are in business together, we’re in love together, and we’re in life together. When we get into conflict, we are trained to recognize that our first response is not the real response. It’s just our biology. 💫
Instead, we choose to open the vault and stay in the resolution of our conflict until we reach the end. No walking out, no hiding out, no staying stuck in the storm. 🌪 To master this, it requires us to receive everything our partner is saying when they "open the vault" and practice moving from our second response rather than our biological response. We actually choose to use our conflict as a way to connect and go deeper in the relationship.
Are you ready to open the vault in your relationship? ❤️
Men lie, women lie, the numbers don't. - Jay-z
Most people are living on spiked emotions and when the investment(person) loses value they blame the investment but in reality they got infatuated and they didn't invest wisely.
The fear of being alone can drive you such extents that you convince yourself of just about the most ridiculous ideas... be careful!!! Don’t let being alone make you feel so lonely that you do something that you aren’t ready for... spending money, starting a relationship, taking rash decisions about your future that you can’t take back without severe consequences- all because you don’t want to feel lonely... just be careful... don’t open up yourself to something you are not ready for. Take the time to continuously work on yourself and improve on yourself, mentally, physically, intellectually, spiritually and otherwise
To do this YOU HAVE TO BE REALISTIC ABOUT YOUR VICES/FLAWS/SHORTCOMINGS! So that you know what to work on
If you don’t know what your faults are, ask your friends/Family/people around you who won’t lie to you
Work on yourself always!
Don’t be bored,
keep listening 👂🏾 Keep building yourself... CA
Psychological trauma occurs in women and men when our vibrations are not on one accord which keeps us from truly illuminating one another. Because of the fact that we don’t know to or haven’t taken time to release and heal from the past we harbor the old toxins from the past, tell the old stories from the past and often times are delusional when we interact with our present loves. I’m sure all of us have experienced this at one time or another. It’s incorrect placement, unfair and non conducive to the empowerment of the union. Before you judge or compare your lover to the events of the past or give life to negative anticipatory behaviors, check yourself out, assess and ask self questions so it doesn’t confuse the energy and potential of the union. Someone, somewhere, is going through this. I stand with you and send energy of clarity, gentle communication and loving flow to you and your mate. Asè and so it is. 🌹🌹 #relationshipstruggles#relationshipgoals😍 #relationshipproblems#relationshipgoalsmet#sacredunion#selfcaresunday
6 194 days ago
💪When it's done, its done! Don't open up old wounds.
Relationships are tough! So...
Do you want an IG video series going through this #book?
It would be from a married man's perspective but I think you may find it helpful.
If you want it gimme a 💞 below!