How do you encourage your husband?⠀
My husband and I are both entrepreneurs and need encouragement often. We both find ourselves getting stuck in our business, feeling down on ourselves, or just feeling unmotivated. ⠀
When I first started dating my husband, his mother made it clear that I was going to need to be supportive if his business was going to be successful. There would be times I would need to make sacrifices for the business, times I would need to motivate, and times I would need to be patient. Little did I know this is just required for all marriages. ⠀
I've learned that sometimes encouraging my husband is encouraging him to rest. Sometimes encouragement is cheering him on and celebrating the little accomplishments. Other times it's reminding him why I love him.⠀
We all need encouragement and we all need it in different ways. It's been a journey to figure out how he needs to be encouraged versus how I need to be encourage. Some days we get it right and other days we get it so wrong. But we keep trying and we keep listening to each others needs.
1 136 hours ago
I'm still waiting for the woman I deserve. Any takers? 😄😄😄😄
Assumptions and expectations do not create a healthy and sustainable relationship. Communication, cooperation, mutual support and understanding do. 💕
12 688 hours ago
what happens when you shake a bottle of champagne?
It explodes in your face! That's what. In that moment you can choose to be upset about it or you can laugh and drink from the bottle.
I choose to laugh and drink from the bottle because sometimes it's better.
2 309 hours ago
I’m not a writer.
It’s one of the biggest lies I’ve told myself over the years.
It’s one major way I hide.
I pretend writing is hard for me, when the real truth is that it flows when I allow it.
✍️ About 5 years ago I joined Kelly Morgan’s writing class in Marina Del Rey with an intimate group of about 12 people who gather together to be guided through various writing processes.
I didn’t always show up to class due partially to my travel schedule. But really, more accurately, every time I would write and share something emotional, vulnerable, soul opening, the very next week I would somehow find a reason to avoid the class.
And so it went… even up through 2018. I think out of 10 classes I attended three.
My inner critic, Bonnie, (yeah, I named her… no offense to any amazing Bonnies out there!) decided it was time to give writing a chance and stop following me around with a whip and poking stick.
😍😍Bonnie and I are co-writing now.
She lets me do the writing and then I allow her to do the editing!
This breakthrough happened less than 2️⃣ weeks ago.
We can always open more, choose a more loving path in service of our gifts to share with wonderful people who care and want to go on the journey together.
So today, I’m allowing myself to write freely even though I feel nervous sharing what I'm writing, I'm doing that, too!
🥰And even more than that, I WANT to write. I've NEVER said that before in my life. And it's true.
🤔If you want to write and are not allowing yourself to do so for some reason, ❤️ Kelly Morgan is the kindest, most loving guide into tender issues around writing your message, in addition to being bold and unapologetic to tell you the truth about your writing. It's a gift to hold both extremes and a beautiful incubator.
🙏I’m eternally grateful for Kelly’s guidance and for each of her writing students who gave me feedback and helped shape my writing. And to @chriswinfield for encouraging me to share in social media. ❤️
❤️Thank you for going on this journey with me. I appreciate you reading this post and any comments you have here.
Nothing can roadblock communication like silence. Sometimes silence can cause more pain than words. I’m sure you’ve heard to choose your words carefully....I would also advise to choose your silence carefully.
I was that girl. The one who changed herself so much in her marriage that when it ended, I had no idea who I was anymore.
I didn't love myself, I didn't have any type of relationship with myself anymore. I felt confused, lost and guilty. Add the shame and embarrassment and that was me.
I wanted to be me again. Except I didn't know who that was anymore. I wanted to be happy but I felt like I didnt deserve that.
My marriage was over and I was so ashamed, scared and unsure about what this meant now. How was I meant to move forward.
Feeling scared, lost and confused after a break up is totally okay! Healing is possible and it is beautiful. Learning how to love yourself can be a journey that opens up a portal that you forgot was there.
How would it feel if you felt like you again?
What would it feel like if you were able to dream again?
How would reclaiming you life feel?
Conflict in relationships is inevitable. What really matters is how the conflict is managed. Focusing on cooperation and the goals of the relationship can make your relationship even stronger. 💕
2 1152 days ago
I found another limiting belief of mine… straight out of my scarcity mindset.
. My seed of fear/limiting belief came yesterday during a business meeting with Zion Kim and Preston Smiles. (If you don’t know these guys yet…you want to know these masters.) . When the conversation turned to me, I felt small, like the miniature, plastic figurines from a child’s Barbie playhouse.
. So instead of turning into a plastic statue I made a choice.
. So with all my courage, I said, “Hey, can I bring up a mindset issue here and get support from both of you?” . And of course, they were all ears. .
Here’s the limiting belief that arose: As @pacifist_og and I are making our methodology available for entrepreneur couples to do the work in the privacy of their own home, it’s brought up in me: . “What if couples use it against each other and it makes their relationship worse because they don’t have access to me to help guide them as private clients?”
. So with all the love, compassion and fierceness that Preston has, he handed me my hat.
. First, Preston said, “If you think that’s not already happening, think again. Couples you work with privately use your methodology against each other at times. So, it’s already happening. What’s the real reason you are afraid to share your work with “strangers”?” . Then, Zion spoke. That is what the picture is here. Zion is the preacher with his hands up on the right.
. “Marla, I know that God Consciousness is part of your methodology when you teach couples, right?”
“Yes,” I replied.
. He continued, “You are channelling things that are coming directly from the Universe, from Spirit, from Source, in service of others, so if that’s the case, is it really yours to judge?”
. It was the mic drop moment for both me and Preston. We laughed out loud.
. Laughing at the truth is new for me.
. Now I receive it. Fully. I let it in to transform what I thought was true into a new understanding. . I’m so grateful to be surrounded by so many incredible mentors, friends, colleagues and loves.
. ❤️Would love to hear if you resonate with any of what I've shared here. I'm curious how all this lands with you.
You can let your past make you better or bitter. You can choose to evolve or repeat. It’s entirely up to you
The sooner you accept that everything is happening FOR YOU rather than to you, the faster and easier it will be to release past hurt and attract the love you desire
You can choose to respond to situations based on the person who is already over it. When you get triggered, I challenge you to stop blaming and start blessing the other person for showing you what you have rejected/disowned about yourself
We live in a holographic universe where the relationship you have with yourself is mirrored by the relationship you have with other people
The more intimate you get, the more your shadow aspects come out to the light of your awareness for healing and growth
When you choose to separate people from their behavior, you allow yourself to attract the love you desire
✨Accept: see a person’s actions as just that, actions, not a reflection of their humanness;
💓Forgive: yourself, the other person and the situation. Choose peace over pain;
🙏🏼Thank: be grateful for the lesson you’ve learned and the clarity you’ve gained. By experiencing the opposite of what you want, you now know what to become unavailable for
Are you choosing to evolve from your toxic relationship past or repeat it once again? Tag a friend who needs to receive this message in the comments below 👇🏼💕
PS message me for more details on working with me to get your subconscious mind on the fast track to your self-love expansion and relationship revolution 🧠💓
Many claim to know what love is but their actions and deeds show otherwise.
***Disclaimer: (My posts) are not personal unless stated otherwise. I am without hesitation happily married @kingdommarriagesacademy.
Break up we don't talk about it enough. We talk to our friends in quiet spaces, but we don't talk about it enough. It's so taboo still that it can be crippling when you are trying to cope day to day. Wondering if you are meant to be feeling this way, if it's to feel hurt and upset.
I've been there, I did it! 6 years ago, my marriage fell apart, it was over and so many emotions going on. So many different things happening at once. I was devastated and yet relieved. I knew this was best but now the one person who I loved was gone. We weren't meant for the long haul. Our lives just didn't connect like that. 7 years in total we tried.
We fought, we laughed, we broke and we came back together. Fighting with your spouse is one thing but constant arguing, bickering and the constant roller coaster is not okay. When you come to the cross road and the decision to take different roads. It's going to be hard, it is going to hurt at first.
You will want to lock it all up and run away. Here's the truth. It will return. The feelings will come back and they will explode. You will be okay, in time. You don't have to be okay today or tomorrow. You can just put one foot in front of the other. Going to a coach, counselor or therapist doesn't make you weak.
It begins and ends with you. The journey through break up is for you babe. It's a time for you to heal your heartache and walk through this new time and begin to see the world differently and deciding what you are going to do with it. It won't be easy but it can be a beautiful journey. .
You will shine again and you will be like a sunflower and the sun will come out and it will be for you. It will be your time. Your journey is yours.
How are you going to begin the journey? What do you wish you had help for in this moment?
Communication is an important key element in every relationship.
Without it… the relationship dies.
Having a healthy relationship requires each person to feel safe enough to speak their truth while the other listens without judgement.
Stop reacting and responding to everything.
Both persons should communicate from the heart.
Not from pain, sadness, anger, or resentment. It never turns out well.
Speaking from a negative standpoint will only bring about more issues,
If the tension in the conversation gets high, then it is best to simply keep your mouth shut, walk away, cool off, and collect your thoughts before speaking.
When the tension decreases… TALK & LISTEN.
You will probably come to find out, in most cases, that it was a small misunderstanding.
Listen, your heart is really freaking smart, like really smart.
Most people are afraid to fully feel.
They are afraid to feel love, pain, guilt, shame, fear, loneliness, desire.
But I promise you if you fully allow it with the intention of growth and highest good, you absolutely will move forward.
Your feelings are so smart and they don’t need your mind trying to micromanage them. Your heart has a way of finding its equilibrium when it’s given full space and permission.
You don’t have to avoid or push through your emotions. You just have to let them flow. Some feelings just need to be felt.
This was something I was really bad at in the past.
I did this after my last relationship ended. Instead of letting myself feeling the disappointment and grief I tried to rationalize why everything worked out perfectly to feel good again. Don’t get me wrong, things worked out in the highest good and eventually that felt satisfying. But the truth was I felt loss.
I felt abandoned.
I felt disappointment.
I felt pain.
And I would just try and convince myself why I shouldn’t feel that way at all. But I already was.
I was afraid to feel the pain because I was afraid I wouldn’t be able to feel any better and get over it.
The healing wasn’t found in trying to eliminate the problem by telling myself I was getting what I wanted but it was found in acknowledging that I didn’t feel like I was, so then I finally could.
I didn’t let myself have the full experience of grief and disappointment and allow it to being clarity, integration, and healing. Because of that I would start to feel a bit better, than snap back to sad feelings that I once again would try and justify and explain away. Because that which you resists persists and if you don’t address an issue of course it isn’t going to go away..
Here’s what I know...
You can’t solve a problem if you don’t acknowledge there is one. And if you’re feeling bad something has already occurred and bypassing it is never the answer.
Give your feelings a voice.
Feel them fully.
And remember you don’t have to be so in control because your feeling are so fucking smart and they know what they’re doing.💓
🙌Theres a huge difference between having walls up and having healthy boundaries in place.
🌺Having walls up comes from fear.
Having walls up prevents people from getting close to you.
Having walls up is incredibly lonely and unhealthy
🌺Boundaries come from a place of Self-love.
Boundaries teach people how to treat you
Boundaries allow amazing people into your life
Boundaries create incredible connected relationships
GIRL..It's time you got some boundaries 💪❤
3 303 days ago
Men and women have different ways of communicating. I like to tell my heterosexual couples that it’s ok - I’ll translate for them, as I’m bilingual 😂😂. .
It wasn’t pretty…
I had no control over my emotions…
Even now, I’m crying just thinking about how I treated Julian, my love, my partner, my ride or die… He’s someone I would never want to hurt… ever.
Sobbing in the shower, sitting on the iridescent, mosaic tile floor, leaning against the wall letting the water flow down my face and naked body. I couldn’t stop.
It wasn’t until Julian put his shoes on, ready to leave the room, and possibly the house, that I broke down into tears. And I finally, softly, through lots of sobbing, said, “Please don’t go. I know I’m pushing you away, but I really need you to stay, I don’t know what to do.” And that cracked us both open. Neither of us knew what to do.
So, I did the only thing that I know helps me, I got in water. I got in the shower, ran the water, and crumpled to the floor.
Julian was standing in our bathroom trying to talk me through it, and I finally asked for what I wanted. “Will you please come in the shower with me?” He was very hesitant. Getting into the lion’s den with the lion isn’t necessarily a good move.
But he took his clothes off and opened the shower door.
He sat on the bench, water falling on his legs, and me sitting on the floor now curled up in his lap. Sobbing. Letting it out. Being held. Not knowing what the big problem was and why I caused such a big fuss.
And then we had a breakthrough. Julian’s kindness and loving touch and words helped soothe me to the core.
So the next day we sat down to talk and I shared with Julian the most beautiful understanding that emerged.
I had that tantrum BECAUSE I feel so loved and safe in our relationship.
That new understanding gave us both insight into me, and into our relationship.
I shared that if I didn’t have the safety, security, and love present in our relationship, I would have just zipped it up. Shut it down, not allowed myself to fully emote and push him away so hard.
It was truly a healing. And we are still in process.
I wanted to share here to reveal more and more of the inner world and behind the scenes of my life.
And I also wanted to share because this is how we turn conflict into connection.
Thank you for reading.
47 17003 days ago
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