When You Think Your Done, Take Another Step
I’m going to be honest here for a second. Last week was tough, and not in a everything fell apart kind of tough but just everyday seemed to have an odd challenge of its own and it caused some very negative energy to arise in me. Which I’ve dealt with before going into this week! So, I’m good now haha.
But I’ve realized these moments in time can be growing pains. Just like working out to build muscle will usually “hurt” once we’ve pushed ourselves to a certain point. Growth in any area of life will cause “pain” on occasion, and it’s not always a physical thing, sometimes it’s mental. Last week held some mental growing pains for me. And that’s ok! What I want to talk to you about this week is when you’ve been moving towards your goals, exercising patience and persistence in obtaining that goal. There will come a point when you’ve been pushed over the threshold of growth.
When we work out in the gym (which for the record I should probably do more of, anyone with me?) regularly and push ourselves to go further and lift more, our bodies begin to build strength automatically. This is done by your body repairing damaged muscle fibers through a cellular process where it fuses muscle fibers together to form new muscle protein strands or myofibrils. These repaired myofibrils increase in thickness and number to create muscle growth. (Disclaimer is Google did help me with that definition 😉 ). __
And so, as we work through our mental growing pains we need to remember that it’s maybe a little painful right now, and it might be a little exhaustive, but this is required for growth. And will always be a part of your journey as you progress through this life.
But this week, no matter what week you’ve had last week, this week I want you to take another step. Because that’s exactly when the growth will come. • • • • •
I was reminded today why I am so passionate about #SelfcareSunday and this business opportunity.
Our first year of marriage was tough.
We moved to Washington in late summer of 2015. We had only been married for a few months.
I started a new job and quite frankly wasn't nearly as good at it as I wanted to be. The learning curve was steep. I would come home mentally, emotionally, and physically exhausted. I would binge watch Grey's Anatomy on Netflix. I loved watching medical interns who gloriously failed at a job they were passionate about learning. It made me feel a teensy tiny bit better about myself.
Daniel was still flying back to California to finish up graduate school so he was gone three days a week. When he was home, he worked alllllll the time. Even nights and weekends.
I lived thousands of miles away from my family. I didn't feel like I had friends. I didn't have a hobby outside of watching Netflix. I was gaining weight. My marriage wasn't where I wanted it to be.
I told myself it would get better when Daniel graduated and we could both live in the same place full time. But it didn't. If the first year of marriage was hard, the second year was even tougher.
With all of this going on in my life, the opportunity to start my own little makeup business presented itself.
I paid the $55 and took that leap.
Suddenly I had a hobby! I was learning how to do my makeup and how to run a social media based business. I was gaining skills and confidence. Daniel was excited about helping me make it all happen behind the scenes. I was reconnecting with old friends online and making new friends in person anytime someone I knew told someone else about this "magic lipstick" that I had my hands on.
Starting a business has taught me sooooooooooo much about myself! It's emphasized what's important to me. It has challenged me to keep growing and becoming a better person. It helps me to reach outside of myself. It has given me great insight into Daniel's entrepreneurial mind and helped me to appreciate him more fully.
When I look at Kelsee from 2017, I see how lonely I felt. I remember how terrified I was to take a "selfie" or to post on
Support and encouragement is always good but enabling someone's bad behavior, bad habits, bad ways of themself or addiction is never good. Know the difference. Also, some people in their immaturity want you to keep "babying" them and though that may happen sometimes for a season because you love them, there comes a time when they must grow up! You will either challenge them to grow up or keep "babying" them in their mess and immaturity. You have to choose to be a part of the solution and not become a part of the problem. People will force you to keep "babying" them because they don't want to change and they've become comfortable. If you love them, you must challenge them to change by not enabling or "babying" them so they can become a better version of themselves.
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Don’t do it because it’s easy, do it because it’s worth it. ☝🏽✨
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I spent Sunday evening wrapped in joy attending a recital of the great poet Kabir’s poetry and life stories. My gosh, what a soulful evening it was!
Remember Kabir, the one whose poetry was hard to forget when we read it as children? As we grow up and get busy with adult life, we tend to forget the lessons we had learned when we were young, lessons that would do as well as go to tackle the many challenges life throws at us.
The singer recounted many stories from the life of Kabir but a couple of them stuck with me more than the others. Here is one:
Kabir was an iconoclast who sang of both Ram and Rahim and loved them both with equal fervour. He was a man who belonged to a ‘lower caste’ and was shunned by the Hindu priests and Muslim Mualanas because he spared neither of them and called them out for their hypocrisy.
He was not a man people would have normally flocked too, he was illiterate and did not know how to read or write. However, he was so full of love for the divine and his songs dripped of that love, that people flocked to listen to him instead of the religious heads of their respective religions.
The people in power were so threatened by his presence that the king of the time tried to get him killed thrice but failed. When he eventually died, both Hindus and Muslims came to claim his body as their own even though neither of them had not given him the respect he deserved when he was alive.
What does that teach me? Many things:
1) People will own and disown you as per convenience. Never let their actions dictate the course of your life. Succumb not to the pressures of society but to your own heart.
2) You need not have any qualifications whatsoever but if you create something with love and passion, it will shine and people will find you no matter where you are.
3) You do not need religion to seek the divine. Faith and love was all that Kabir lived his life with and here we are in 2018 still singing his songs while we cannot recount the name of even a single priest or Mualana of the time.
Learn from those whose messages have survived the tides of time because wisdom never gets old. :)
People appreciate you when you build genuine relationships with them ❤️🙏🏼 I’m so grateful for the friends I’ve made and the ones I continue to make on a daily basis!
Step outside your comfort zone.
Smile at someone today,
ask them how they’re doing
and above all be GENUINE about it!
Shout out to Chris and Chells for the Starbucks on the House ❤️ love you both!
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For a really long time in my #life, I had struggled with my #insecurities as a person.
Trust me when I say it, I have been searching for my #meaning in life in so many different places and in so many things.
I've tried finding meaning in trying to be that perfect son that my mum would've approved.
I tried working really hard at climbing the corporate ladder at one point.
I've tried seeking meaning in living a more lavish and materialistic lifestyle.
I've done many of the things that most people would've done in their lifetimes to search for meaning and #purpose.
Hell, I even tried #relationships and #marriage, thinking it might bring me more meaning in life too.
Many decisions I've made in my life has been a direct result of my insecurities that I felt from when I was just a child.
And many of those decisions still haunt me today, like a reminder that I can never find meaning in those areas and things.
For the first time in a really long time, I felt like I no longer need any of that.
Would I like to enjoy a more comfortable lifestyle? Sure. I mean it's nice to have one. But I'll also be perfectly fine without it.
Would I like to have #companionship (maybe even start my own family one day)? Sure, I've always desired to have my own family one day. A beautiful #girlfriend/ #wife even. But I'll be fine without one right now.
That's because I have found my own purpose and meaning in life - thanks to the #inspiration that I had, which resulted in me creating @onlinelabseries.
It has provided me with a clear set of #goals and #mission.
Now, I no longer feel like there's a #void that I needed to fill on the inside of me.
I know that due to my insecurities growing up, I definitely must have hurt, angered and disappointed a lot of people along the way. I could only #hope and #wish that one day they will be able to find the courage to #forgive.
As for me, I am moving forward towards my #visions and #dreams. And I am not going to let anything from my past to hold me back from it.
You really only live once. So stop worrying about what others might think or say about you. .
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Listening to podcasts is one of the best things I like to do while doing chores or cardio-ing or meal prepping like I was tonight. This is a great one of you're not afraid to take head on whatever beliefs you might have and actually listen to what some incredible intellectuals have to say, as challenging to your own thinking it may be. Good stuff 🙌🏻 @firstname.lastname@example.org#personaldevelopment#exchangeofideas#openyourmind
I will keep on showing up for me & you. I have my bad days and I have my good days. To say I don’t have insecurities would be a lie. I do. The only difference between then and now is I don’t let myself drown in it
I am enjoying taking care of my body and mind. It’s not a chore and it’s the best kind of selfish to be. You have to take care of you, because no one else will do it for you
And when I extend these invites to my bootcamps. It’s not a fast fix. It’s hard work, but I can guarantee you that hard work pays off. That hard work that seemed impossible is paying off. That hard work also makes you want to cry and quit, but then you don’t
So I’m offering the same program to you that completely transformed my body and mind. The program that gave me hope again. I feel more ME than ever. Drop a 🙋♀️ below and I’ll do the rest. Don’t wait until next year, or next Monday, make YOU a priority now. I can’t wait to see where you’ll be eight weeks from now ✨
I am VERY excited to announce that I’ve decided to join arms with Michelle Casey and Chani Peach at the Healthstyle Emporium as a Holistic Health Coach! These woman are amongst some of the most down to earth, passionate, beautiful and caring souls on this planet and I’m so proud to work alongside them! 💕
The Healthstyle Emporium is an online program that offers an array of health professionals, such as Nutritionists, PT’s, Psychologists, RN’s and Health Coaches just to name a few! The program is designed to guide people to meet their health and fitness goals and go on a path of self discovery! The program includes intensive support, healthy recipes, meditation guides, fitness guides, yoga guides etc. As many of you know, I’m very passionate about health and wellness and am almost finished my course with IIN to become a Certified Health Coach, so this amazing opportunity feels like a natural progression for me 😀
I would love your support along this journey and feedback along the way 💫 @michellecaseyyy#babesinbusiness#healthstyleemporium
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Last night's #readingparty! Should have moved that serviette... or is it a napkin? But I thought only the cloth ones are napkins?
The Event was hosted by @cityofmelbourne libraries for the Australian Reading Hour (ARH) an annual campaign encouraging Australians of all ages to read for one hour (every day).
When was the last time you picked up a book? Non educational magazines and textbooks don't count. 😋
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The most important, precious, and scarce resource of all is simply time.
When you have money or great relationships or great physical health or whichever else or other great things, you can reach or arrive at abundance of each of those at some point.
But time, you never get more of and everyone has the same amount. The more that I progress on my journey, and the more I learn and grow, I begin to see that time becomes the ultimate limiting factor for most people and most things.
You can achieve anything but not everything because you have to choose, because time is limited ... and further: the time we may or may not have in our own lives is unknown. So it’s best to make the most of the time we have in front of us, while we can.⏱😬
You grow through hardships. You will always have an extraordinary destiny. 👈🏽 | 📷 @sofyan_adi2805
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