A little weekend work at the Maplewood Noise Conservatory. #outcomes
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Everybody has a story. Somewhere within it, we all go through change. I can't count the times in my life story that I've had to reevaluate where I was or what I was doing, and begin again .. or at least pause to take stock of my outcomes. Out of frustration with change, I sometimes beat myself up for no reason at all because I failed to understand that life is a process. And with every event and every change of course also comes an opportunity for growth, and advancement. What I'm talking about is a certain kind of self awareness ... to be able to see when change is coming or when it is needed and embrace it. Now I'm at a point where beyond acceptance of a situation, Im seeking stability in this constant process of change we call life. Simply put, it means I have to be more comfortable with becoming than being. My story will never truly be defined as up or down, win or loss or any state in between. It's how well I see the need for change, and my level of desire to transition and flow with the change.
#tashyrasvoice • Whether family, friends or foe...colleagues, co-workers or co-horts...everyone is not meant to go. A good run, is a good run...but nobody runs forever. There is a finish line, an expiration date and a conclusion to the whole matter for every situation, and every relationship- even if the conclusion is referencing the completion of one level and the need to evolve to the next. .
The end of a thing does not discredit the value and the benefits of the relationship(s) while they were in play. It simply says that we’ve come this far, to come this far. We’ve gone as far as we can go - on this wise. This relationship, as we know it to be, cannot go into our respective futures. .
Respect the past and the presents they produce. But anticipate the future without them, while embracing the new you. .
Uncertainty can be the most anxiety provoking feeling in our life. Yet, uncertainty can bring about the most beautiful and unexpected experiences that further our growth, knowledge, and prosperity. We may prepare for the uncertain, but remember to embrace its outcome.
I recently wrote a paper with @drshaundesai and others on looking at the best instruments for measuring cosmetic outcomes after head and neck reconstruction.
Though many published studies do not report on this important domain, we feel that this is a huge opportunity for future research as cancer patients do care about their appearance after a major reconstructive surgery.
Check out the article at the white journal to read about our work and to see which instruments we thought were best for this purpose.
How Values Help With Healthy Detachment
For everyone, most especially for driven, Type A achievers, goals are an important part of life.
Among many other things, goals provide direction, destination, and a sense of purpose.
One of the few downsides of goals is that they are, in fact, outcomes of a sort.
As such, whether we achieve a given goal is rarely entirely within our control.
Goal achievement may require the assistance of others, something of which we are ultimately not capable (i.e., a car accident results in physical injury that prevents exercise and makes a weight loss goal impossible), or the universe may simply have other plans for us.
The question then becomes what to do with that risk that comes with lack of complete control.
Stephanie Essenfeld at @therapyuntangled posits, correctly, that living from our values allows us to strive toward our goals as best we can while our identity and self-worth remain healthily detached from the outcome of the goal itself.
Staying with a weight loss example, let’s say you have a goal to lose 50 pounds in 6 months...difficult, but possible.
What you do have control over is your exercise, nutrition, and effort.
You can influence, but do not control the number on the scale.
Further suppose that you lose 25 pounds instead of 50.
Identifying yourself only with the goal results in a zero sum game in which anything less than achieving goal is a total loss.
That’s no way to live.
Living by your values, on the other hand, creates space for many wonderful things: small wins along the journey, learning as you go, and grace, mercy, & forgiveness when (not if) you come up short of the goal.
When it comes to living your values in pursuit of your goals, I’ll close with a quote from Tony Horton (IG: @tonyhorton) of P90X fame:
“Do your best and forget the rest.” 🙂
• #goals#outcomes#results#external#risk #values#integrity#authenticity#effort #detachment#identity#healthy#congruence
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If you know your goal and you keep moving ahead you will adjust your direction along the way.
Be prepared for the difficulties and treat it like a part of your adventure!
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There is only one outcome you can control: And that’s doing your best job at any particular project, given who you are today, and completing it to the best of your abilities. So whatever it might be that’s looming over you, start it now.
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On a day-to-day basis as a hairdresser, you are faced with an array of challenges and creative opportunities! 💫 Each guest’s hair has its own unique history, with a variety of end #goals insight! 😍
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Are you getting unstructured reps or are you Training?
I can definitively relate all of by big wins to to setting Goals and building a training plan for them.
Many people go to a gym to work out, for better self esteem, lose some weight, join a tribe...I can go on with the list. Working out is an activity like taking a painting class, or walking the dog. It's just like brushing your teeth.
Training is a discipline. Training is a structured outline and pursuit of a goal relative to a big outcome in your life. It sets the frame that allows you to go after big things!!! The kind of stuff people will wonder how you pulled off by "going to the gym". And...I'm not just talking about athleticism. Hitting any big Target in your life requires training. That big job promotion, secret marriage proposal or whatever doesn't get accomplished by a few unstructured reps.
You get those wins by setting a goal, getting committed and training your ass off.
So... Stop "working out" and get behind a BIG Goal so you can train your way to greatness. -
How often do you judge people? Do you recognize your judgments? If you judge others you hurt them. You say to them: "you are bad, you are worthless." They feel that way even if you don't mean it. So stop hurting others.