I’ll go first. 🙋🏼♀️ I am the emotional exorcist of the family. I pick up on bad vibes and I start in “everything ok?” Is something wrong?” “ I’m picking up on....” In some ways it’s a great skill to be intuitive about what’s going on with others you love; however it’s also exhausting.😴Especially bc I tend to take it on as my responsibility and fault...like it’s my job to make everyone I love “ok” and if they aren’t it’s something I did or didn’t do. So draining. Imagine how that translates into taking things a bit too personally when it may have absolutely nothing to do with me. That’s my baggage. 🧳 That’s what I’ve been unpacking and restructuring in my own life.
The thing is though we ALL have baggage. We all have stuff that we carry with us from one relationship to the next...that ultimately impacts how we are, what we’re sensitive to, and how we relate to others.
SO, are you man or woman enough to own it and unpack those bags? Because it isn’t easy. Are you willing to face the insights and make the changes you need to be a better friend, sibling, son/daughter, or partner?
RULES! There are so many rules. Well at least there used to be.
I was taught all the unspoken rules, that I’d eventually have to unlearn. I’m still reconditioning myself with all these bullshit rules I was taught as a kid.
Bullshit rules and bullshit sayings like: “You’ve made your bed now lie in it”- fuck that! I’ll sleep on the floor!
Is that why divorce is so common these days? Some say these days people are throwing in the towel too early in their marriages. I doubt people wake up one morning, look at their partner and say “yeah I’m done with you I want a divorce”
For me, I tried and tried for maaaany years. I didn’t want to throw in the towel. I wanted to be married and wanted to continue to be a family of four. I definitely didnt want to be a single mum of two kids!
But after an embarrassing amount of time, and completely losing myself in the process, I finally decided it was time to leave.
He couldn’t change, and that was ok. But I couldn’t live like that anymore. So I left the marriage with my two young kids in tow.
He didn’t like that. His family didn’t like that. My family (of European decent) didn’t like that. I was suppose to “stick it out”
Fuck that. Fuck the rules!
I was outta there. Finally! And the second I did that my world completely opened up and I’ve been living the best life ever since!
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Inmensamente Feliz y Agradecida de tener a este maravilloso hombre a mi lado.
8 años caminando juntos y
4 desde que dijimos sí delante de todos.
No cambiará ni un segundo de todo este tiempo.
HOY te amo. ❤️ Hoy te admiro, te respeto, te valoro y agradezco tener la dicha de que seas mi esposo, mi compañero de aventuras, mi mejor amigo y mi todo. ✨