"Love isn’t all butterflies and magic. It’s compromise, it’s arguments, full of ugly words and whispers. Love isn’t this huge beam of light that shines down on a couple for eternity. It is complicated and messy and it takes a huge amount of work.
Love isn’t going to erase your insecurities. Love isn’t going to take away your depression or anxiety. Love isn’t going to erase your sadness or your problems with work and money and other relationships. We would like to believe it has the power to do this. We would love to believe it. But, it’s not the real and honest truth.
Love is something. But love is not everything.
If you start to see darkness overshadowing the light in your relationship, try not to panic. Don’t run right away. Don’t throw in the cards and give up. Ride the wave. Argue, scream and fight through it. Swim in it, no matter how strong the current gets. Only then is it going to be worth saving. Because, you have to go through the bad stuff and the hard stuff, to get to the good parts.
Love isn’t linear. It’s not something that will always grow upwards.
You have got to get to the difficult conversations. The ones that make you cry and hurt. The ones that make your partner hurt. You’ve got to see them for who they are truly are, flaws and all. And they have got to know the dark parts of you. The ones you never wanted them to see. You have got to have those heartbreaking arguments and go through hell and back.
Only then, will you be able to see if it is the kind of love that is true. Only then, will you be able to see if it is the kind of love that you want to keep. Only then, will you be able to see if this is the kind of love that you don’t want to ever give up on.
Love is a battlefield. It’s not supposed to always be heavenly. You’ve got to work for it. You’ve got to fight like hell for it.
Only then, will you know that yes, love is worth it. It’s worth all the hardships and the sacrifices. Love isn’t magic. But when you get it right and when you work hard enough on it, it’s pretty close to it."
—@laurenjg5 via @thoughtcatalog
Hey guys, it’s been a while. I was locked out of this acc bc I forgot the password🥴 I wanna thank the ones who still supported my acc even when I wasn’t posting❤️
"It’s always the person who you won’t think will ever hurt you that always does and its always the best friend thats “forever” that ends up being the one whose not.
Nothing is fucking predictable, and you can’t predict anyones intentions in your life, you can only live through them. And these past couple weeks I’ve been feeling so damn alone, I seem to forget that I am surrounded by people.
I used to think that we were forever. I mean, we’ve been through worse, and we were still side by side after it all and now nothing has even happened, we just stopped telling each other everything and then we just stopped telling each other anything at all, and then before i could even make sense of it, there was so much distance between us that there was nothing to reach for anymore. You're so far away, and there is no point in reaching over anymore because we are not the same people we used to be.
I used to think that when somebody said they loved you they’ll love you forever. I used to think loving someone was something that would never go away. the words “I love you” were so raw for me, but none of that makes sense anymore because the truth is, people lie.
Sometimes “I love you” is just a lie, and sometimes its not. But when do you know when its real?
the answer is, you dont... and sometimes someone will love you one day and then completely ignore you the next for no reason at all.
nothing about anything makes sense anymore. people are here one day, their gone the next. sometimes you don’t even get a reason, you just get to stay up night after night wondering where the fuck did it all go wrong?
and it just doesn’t make sense. nothing makes sense, and I don’t know how to take in the fact that, there are no reasons for why things happen, and sometimes you get no reason to why someone just stops loving you and stops being there for you. You just get to live through it.”
—We used to stay up on the phone talking for hours, now I cant even get a text back. (via fadedheartbreq)