Sometimes we have to let people go. Sometimes they hurt us and we must forgive them and then just leave them be. Being near those who create chaos and pain is no way to live. Let them miss you, if they don't, it us their loss.
When we live in the chaos, our minds cannot get peace. We ask the Lord for peace of mind, peace of heart to move on and yet we keep looking back. Learning to let them go, letting them understand that you are worth having and the intrinsic value to add to their lives is an especially challenging lesson to learn as adults.
We often feel that when we walk away, we have failed. But, when will we learn that we are failing ourselves when we continue to devalue ourselves for the sake of those who refuse to see US. And, on the flip side of that, why would we expect that we are of value to someone else when we do not show that we value ourselves.
So, walk away, value yourself. Let them miss you while you give yourself a break from that negativity that surrounds their lives. When they are creating chaos for you, you cannot find peace. And peace is where at!
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STAY FRESH Y'ALL. 😎 There's something so refreshing about changing things up and challenging yourself. With the extra 😴 that I got this morning. I not only did today’s 20 minute workout but I added a bonus round which included some weights. Talk about a burn. 🔥💦 .
Push-ups are my LEAST favorite moves to work because they are still HARD foe me to do. But easy won't help me make the changes I want to make and help push me towards my health and fitness goals. I used to run from hard things now I run towards them. 🏃🏽 .
Our old nature will always try to come back but we've got to push harder to bust through those mental walls! 👊🏼💥That's where real transformation begins!! .
Week 2 Day 3 WORKOUT COMPLETE ✅💦💪🏼!!
Time is a powerful thing. Sometimes you need time to heal, to reflect, to forgive, and to become a better person. There’s always time for the present and the future, try to learn from the past, but never live there.
Happy Hump Day 💜
Note to self. Day 57.
I forgive myself.
For not walking away when I should've.
For waiting for him to make a decision, when I knew one needed to be made.
For not standing my ground.
For taking on more than I could handle.
For not choosing myself.
I forgive myself.
The judgments I hold against myself are counterproductive to the self love I aspire to have.
I have to remind myself of this daily.
It’s tough some days, but I’m pretty tough.
Thread the needle... You are a work in progress, a patchwork of beautiful pieces that make up the whole of your soul 🖤 @stacie.martin
1 324 hours ago
We can't solve our problems with the same mindset that got us there. .
It’s logically impossible to hate ourselves through a journey toward looking and feeling our best and expect an outcome of self love. .
If that journey toward creating a nourishing relationship with food and feeling good in our body is fueled with self hate, self attack, self rejection, shaming, blaming, guilty, and fearful thoughts, it is *not* going to be successful - cue the on/off again self sabotaging behaviors. .
I'm a prime example of this and I see it every day with clients. .
Changing your mindset, your thoughts, your beliefs, and your body image (how you feel in/about your body aside from how it looks) HAS to be a foundation part of your journey for sustainable success. .
Have you created this solid foundation? Or are you trying to build on a shaky foundation? . (PS You gotta see picture #2! I tried picking Maddie up to be in the shot with me...she was NOT thrilled about it hahah)
Do you ever celebrate the birthday of someone who already crossed over?
I know this is something that we don’t talk about often as it may be considered ‘weird’ but here I am talking about it with the hopes to just normalize it 💫
Today is the birthday of someone very special in my life who is no longer here & every year I celebrate her life ✨
Me, decadent cake, a glass or 2 of champagne and a diary to write down all of these wonderful conversations we have during this celebration 😊
Some years, I get dressed up & wear lipstick and others I wear sweats & my hair is in a bun — but one thing I always do is CELEBRATE her birth!
She was and always will be an Angel in my life ✨
One day I might share more details but for now, I want to share this:
Our friends or family members who have crossed have now become part of your Angel tribe! They are always there cheering you on, supporting you & sending you positive vibes.
Angels operate at a high, joyful frequency so the happier you are, the easier it is to feel their presence. How magical is that?
I know missing someone can be hard but remember you get to choose how you remember them: through pain or through joy.
By celebrating their existence or by remembering the pain they brought when they left.
It’s your choice ✨
It took me years to release the pain and embrace the joy. It’s possible to get to a place where you celebrate those who crossed over despite the circumstances on how they left.
They made their own contracts to cross over (this can be a whole other post) but for now, know this: 💕they are looking at you with love
💕they are smiling at you with grace 💕they are cheering your every step
When you think about them, they are right there with you ❤️
Thank you for letting me share such vulnerable parts of myself with you✨
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This was our brother #Chewbacca. Our mom adored him for over 10 years. He was also a #rescue. @ranchocoastal
He was getting old with aches, pains and loss of hearing. Mom said he was spoiled rotten. Lol
She even had a stroller for him!
One day she made his dinner, shut the door that led to the garage, and got into her car. Her friend jumped out of the car saying he forgot his sunglasses and went into the house. He came back out and got back in the car. As mom was pulling out of the driveway there was a thump. She had run over something. She looked at the garage/kitchen door and it was open. She didn't even look. she knew. She screamed like she never had in her life. She's even crying telling us about this right now.
Her stepdad came over and handled everything. She was devastated. After a couple of months of barely being able to function she got some # counseling from a family friend who did #EMDR therapy. That helped a lot.
What also helped her get through were the free services provided by the University of Tennessee Vet social services @utcsw
So if you ever are devastated by the #loss of your #furry family member please look them up.
P.S. we hope mommy is over the #costume thing!
If I can be real with y’all, this topic of forgiveness has been a topic that the Lord has placed on my heart and on the hearts of those around me. It has been the strangest thing to me because I thought I got this topic in a bag until a couple days ago. I finally realized why!! 🥴🤭 How many of you believe forgiveness to be situational because some situations are simply unforgivable? 🙋🏾♀️ Welp...I’ve finally come to the realization that forgiveness is not situational because if we desire to be like our Father, we don’t have the power to choose who and what to forgive. If we do this, we will harboring so much negativity and it will eventually seep into other areas of our life without us even noticing it.
So from today going forward, declare with me to let all those negative vibes and past hurts, disappointments, etc go...no matter how great or small! We will no longer be slaves to unforgiveness and sweeping things under the rug! 🙅🏾♀️🙌🏾 If you’re still reading this, comment below what you’re going to let go and I will pray for you! 💙
LOVE YOURSELF ✨ Normally we might think of ‘loving’ ourself as doing things like massages, yoga classes, green smoothies or buying a new outfit - but what if giving love to yourself was also about knowing when you’re tired and being ok to sleep in longer than usual 😴 having a Netflix afternoon in bed on a workday if you’re not feeling the productive vibes 💻 or maybe enjoying an extra piece of chocolate brownie, even though it’s not gf/df because it’s just so good! 🍫
I’m learning to be less critical of myself and trying to be more focused on the ENERGY that I bring to the things I’m choosing to do, or not do 💥
This morning I slept in til 7:30, skipped F45 and my whole routine was thrown own the window. I found myself apologising to my husband, to which he looked puzzled! Of course he would! I hadn’t done anything wrong to him - or to myself 😆
The day has started differently to how I planned, but it’s about being ok with that. When we don’t meet our own expectations - and this translates to other areas of our life like work/career, family, personal relationships, health and other goals - can we just relax and know it’s just one moment? One morning. One day. And we have not failed!
Leave a ❤️ below if you can be a little (or a lot!) hard on yourself at times and this a great reminder to show yourself a little kindness X
5 376 hours ago
Is your mind your biggest enemy?!
You probably wake up every day and already feel tired or drained.
You worry about how the day is going to play out and stress about every little thing that’s ahead of you.
When you get to work/school, you’re constantly wondering what people are thinking of you, if you’re saying the wrong thing, or if they like you.
You keep fidgeting or adjusting your outfit and feel self-conscious.
Anytime you see your reflection you begin criticizing yourself and focus on all the ways you “aren’t good enough”.
When things happen that remind you of your past, you feel guilty or carry shame about how unworthy you are.
You feel like that time you lost your job, when your friend didn’t include you, or when you were sexually assaulted is all that defines you.
But even through all of this, you know you are meant for something more... you just don’t know how to get there or how to start believing in yourself enough!!
I’ve fought this battle for YEARS! My mind really was a villain who kept me stuck. I was so self-conscious and afraid of looking silly or imperfect that I was even scared of eating around new people. (Just ask @ktforsyth 😂).
I fought the constant doubts and fears that my mind conjured up, and I went from anxious, insecure, and feeling so much stress and pressure to a place of confidence, and self-worth! 🤗
I now show up everyday as my true self and I follow my internal compass.🧭
There’s no fear about what people think and no questioning if I’m worthy.
I’m so passionate about this transformation because I’ve been exactly where you are and I know how sh💩tty it feels!!
If you want to release all these doubts and struggles and start really feeling confident in who you are - click the link in my bio.
The next round of my Inner Presence Mastermind starts Feb 4th!💃🏼 Register before Jan 28th and you’ll receive a bonus 60-minute call with me & you’ll get to join the program at its original rate!
But after Jan 28th the price will be doubling and I don’t want you to miss out on this life changing transformation because of money.
Get in there now and let’s start changing your life!! 🙏🏼💕💕
Do you protect yourself? By that I mean, from other people’s energy. When we meet someone and it feels good, they are matching or raising our own energy. They add value to our lives, and they “get” us. Sometimes you meet someone and it just doesn’t feel quite right. You don’t know why, but you sense it. Love yourself enough to recognise that person may not be part of your tribe. It will be better for you to smile and walk the other way. Protect your own energy ❤️
My mindset is my greatest strength, and my greatest struggle.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
That's probably why I love it so much. I spent the vast majority of my childhood, and young adulthood, deciding who I was going to be based on outside opinions from other people.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I was a chameleon. Bending to the vision I thought others had of me. I was determined to make everyone else happy BUT myself. It led to significant burnout. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Today, I'm in process. Every day learning from where I was and wanting to take as many people on my journey as possible. We have SO much to offer as people. Let's give it everything we have. Always.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Comment "I'm IN Jeff" if you're falling in love with your process. Tag a friend this would inspire.
It’s only Wednesday and I”m already beating myself up about what I haven’t gotten done!
Emotional abuse is a real thing, y’all, and it comes just as much from inside as it does from anywhere else. If i’m not going to be nice to me, who will?
Today I’m choosing to let some self criticism go and focus on the things I have accomplished this week. And here’s a great essential oil diffuser blend for letting go. “Release” is definitely one of the words on my list for 2019, even if I am still honing in my goals and expectations for myself for the year.
I’m learning to lead myself and my thoughts in ways that I have NEVER done before; business, emotions, healing, parenting, you name it…it’s all up for revision! And part of doing what you love is doing it your way in the most authentic way possible. So here’s to everyone out there doing their best to make their own way in the world. Are you ready to let it be water under the bridge and love yourself for all you do?
And to help with any emotional letting go along the way, lean into these three beauties... 3 drops Siberian Fir
3 drops Lime
3 drops Melaleuca (Tea Tree)
Keep this on constant rotation in your diffuser!
Thinking of each of you today. Do the work, AND be nice to yourself along the way. You deserve it!
1 188 hours ago
The knowing that you have all the answers already inside you. That your intuïtion knows exactly what is right and what is wrong for you and which decisions you have to make♥️ Think about that? What a great feeling is that to know that it’s already there? Too often we led our minds and fears take over and block ourselves from our intuïtion. Ignoring it in every way. It keeps us stuck and away from feeling alive and following your dreams. @nadjavanosch_ challenged me today, to write down all the moments that your intuïtion was there for you, trying to communicate with you, the moments that you already knew, but maybe you didn’t listen to it.
Well that became a long list for me😳 Unhealthy relationships, friendships and even different jobs. I kept them going on for too long. Mostly because I didn’t want to hurt anyone and because I had the fear that people would think I am a failure, or a dissapointment to them. My body was giving me signals that it was not right way earlier in most of the situations. Writing it down, helped me to understand myself better. Back then, I didn’t even know what this signals meant and didn’t have a clue about what my boundaries where, so it won’t help if I become mad at myself. Instead, I choose to forgive myself. All those situations, different people and jobs were important lessons for me and I am grateful for that. Now I know my boundaries and even more important, I can fully trust and listen to my intuïtion. I love the idea that your intuïtion or your inner guidance is always there for you, it always has been and it will always be💖 #trustyourself#trust#peacefulmind#selflove#forgiveyourself#intuition#practise#selfcare#selflovechallenge#happiness#dancewiththewaves
Yesterday was 4 months since I decided to take my health/life into my own hands and really make a change! I had an emotional moment last night thinking how long of a time 4 months is & also how short of a time 4 months is.
To some it’s just weight lost & pounds gone but to me these 4 months have changed my entire world. To be where I was and to struggle doing normal day to day activities was heartbreaking for me & is something not a lot of people understand, fortunately! When I think back to the Summer & having to put on a happy face but truly feeling sore, exhausted & really down; my heart breaks for that person. Hitting your heaviest weight in life makes you feel like you hit rock bottom, that you can’t make the change, it’s too far gone, it’s too hard, no one understands, but what I have been able to accomplish over these past 4 months is proof that it’s NEVER too late to make a change & anyone can do this!
I was that person who didn’t believe & couldn’t see the light but I’m telling you if you commit to changing your eating & moving your body every day a little more, change WILL happen for you! It’s hard work & it’s an emotional journey but it is 10000% worth it every single day.
I have given myself & my family a chance at a better, longer life & there is no better gift you can give yourself or your loved ones! So sure, you see celebrations of weight lost & those are accomplishments worth celebrating, but at the heart of it all & what keeps me pushing is the life you gain when you start living a healthier lifestyle. My advice to anyone just starting out or struggling is don’t give up, believe in yourself & know that you can do this! You are never alone!! I have a long ways to go still, but time is on my side & im so grateful for all these past 4 months have tought me & those who continue to support me, I am forever grateful!! 🙇🏼♀️❤️ #48lbsdown#selflovejourney#losingweightgaininglife#weightlossjourney
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I feel that someone may need to see this today. Also, please know... life happens, things happen... it does not define you. You are incredible just the way you are. You are human. Not everything works out perfect and that is okay. Forgive yourself. Forgive others. Give yourself a high five!