Happy day after Valentine’s Day. I wanted to share some thoughts for my single friends out there.
50 years ago the average age for marriage was 20/22 (women/men) and now it is late 20s/early 30s or higher. So there is a HUGE need for discussion about singleness as it is vastly more prevalent than it used to be.
Society and the church have historically glorified marriage as something that everyone should strive for and in a way, has made single life seem less significant and less desirable. Society and the church have made singleness seem like a means to an end (marriage). But I’ve realized that if marriage is the goal, singleness dwindles down to a form of COPING with life as a single adult AND unintentionally encourages rushing into relationships and maybe even a marriage that’s not in your best interest.
To all my fellow singles out there, i want to remind you: your life is absolutely just as valuable as anyone else’s. Your time, your efforts, your feelings, your experiences, your wisdom.. it’s all equally as valuable as those who are married and have families. Marriage/ relationships won’t fix your problems, it will in fact create a lot more than you had on your own. There is no one out there who can complete you, no one who can fix you or save you or fulfill you. That work needs to be done on your own and that work is honestly a lot easier to do when you’re single (speaking from experience in very emotionally dependent relationships). Marriage is a bonus, not a requirement for a happy life.
You can lead an immensely fulfilling, purposeful life as a single adult, in fact, Jesus’ thought on remaining single is: “if you can, you should”.
Jesus came so that we could live our life to the full, WHATEVER OUR SITUATION.
SEX: you don’t need it to be happy. You don’t need it to be fulfilled. Sex has potential to create just as much heartbreak as it does ecstasy when experienced outside of marriage or in an unhealthy relationship. Sex is a bonus, not a requirement for a happy life.
Your life begins the day you were conceived. Not when you get married, not when you have sex, not when you have a baby. SO START LIVING NOW.
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To the girls who have been told they are too much, and feel they are thus a burden on the people they love, I am sorry. You did not deserve to feel that way, because there is absolutely nothing wrong with being ‘too much.’ Being too passionate, too loving, too kind, too caring, too considerate, too intense…these are all beautiful qualities. And they deserve to be celebrated by the people you love. Anyone who is trying to make you change does not deserve to be a part of your life anymore.
In an ideal world, everything about you would be celebrated just the way you deserve.
But here’s the sad truth, my darling. Some days you’re going to feel all alone in the world in the way you admire the smallest alchemies of life. You will weep, or laugh, or feel overwhelmed by their beauty and you will feel all alone in it because the one you love and need most isn’t like you. They don’t see the overwhelming beauty like you do, they will not understand why it is affecting you so.
Those are the days that are hardest for girls that feel too much. Those are the days where you feel small, or stupid for feeling the amount that you do.
Don’t let them take that away from you.
Don’t you dare let them lessen your shine because they are incapable of comprehending the beauty of a moment the way you are. Don’t you allow the world with it’s numbness to creep into your soul because no one else seems to feel the amount that you do.
You are needed. Girls like you are the kind that people write stories about, girls like you are the kind that take lifetimes to find, girls like you are the kind of loves that people never ever forget. Girls like you are the kind that change history.
So for everything that breathes inside you, all that makes you this holy thing that you are, please please do not allow the world to change you.